Elderly single mom demands her 3 kids each give her $300 per month to supplement her retirement, the youngest refuses: 'This is just pure greed'

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• AITA If I refuse to give my Mom money every month?

  My mom wants all three of us, M, F, F, in our 30s to give her $300 a month each. She said this is for her retirement and that this is our duty. I would be fine with this if she had no income but she has multiple properties she rents out that earns more than we do every month.

• All three of us don’t live at home and have children to take care of. My sisters are both stay at home moms. Their husbands will be the ones to pay this. 

• Having children is expensive. 

  These days, children are an expensive addition to the family, but apparently are not as expensive as having an aging parent. This mother tried to corner her kids, hoping to guilt her way into at least having a financially secure future by flexing her meemaw privileges. Weirdly, this demand was accepted by two out of three of her kids, but one of them wasn't going to stand for it. $300 is a lot of money to have fritter away every month, and the combined cost of all three of her kids was going to give this woman a little extra skrilla in her retirement earnings every month, but at the expense of the kids. 

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• Here is some of our conversation: I asked if she gives her parents money every month and she said no but she has given money to them before. I told her we are all raising kids, paying rent, the economy is terrible. Her response was $300 is not much. The average worker here earns $1000 a month.

• I told her I would never tax my kids like this while they’re trying to build their lives. Her response is that it’s our duty as her children.

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• To try and be non biased she did spend a lot of money sending us to private school. In return I do have a decent job earning higher than the average. I feel like this is just pure greed. Would I be mean for refusing?

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• rp55395

  NTA. A $3600 a year tax just for her to be a part of your life? Put it in a savings account and let her know that you will pay her funeral expenses with it.

• SeveralMarionberry42

  NTA. She chose to have children and she made the choice to send you to private school.

  Similarly, you can’t give someone $100 for their birthday and then come back 10 years later saying it was a loan and you owe me that money + interest. Unless an agreement has been made beforehand you cannot claim duty or responsibility for any kind of arrangement.

  She does not have the right to decide what your money should go to.

• LuxLo11

  Ah. The narcissistic ‘I chose to have you and raise you all so now I’m your responsibility’ parent tax at $900 a month? While she owns multiple properties? And you mentioned renting?!

  I would have loled out of there.

  Time to go low or no contact. The tears, guilt tripping and make-believe financial illiteracy will come next.

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